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Where is Alisha Bastian

Where is Alisha Bastian?Having read Alex Holder’s “Mother Still Grieving for Missing Daughter,” and having read the many comments showing concern for the grieving mom, I was moved with compassion.

I felt the mother’s pain and was moved to help.

After just a few minutes with this parent, it was clear that despite claims by the police that her daughter, Alisha Bastian, is "alive and well," this mother, Denise Barnes, is not convinced.



“I don’t believe them," she said, close to tears. “They (police) say that she alright, but I don’t know that. If they know she is safe, all I’m asking is that they give me proof and I will be happy. I just want to know that she is safe."

I know that the police have a full plate fighting crime and all that, but this mother who has not seen a daughter she loves and misses need some help from the men chosen to protect and serve.

The Daily Observer first ran a story of the supposedly missing 19-year-old student of Pares Secondary in July last year.

Barnes last saw her daughter on the morning of February 15, 2011 during an unpleasant conversation before Bastian left home with her boyfriend to go to town.

“She told me she was pregnant and I told her she needed to go to the clinic to take the necessary tests,” the mother reflected. “He (the boyfriend) said that going to the clinic was not a good idea. I did not understand why he would say that.”

This mother, like many others, has an intuition about the people her children associate with, and this boyfriend was one she was never comfortable with.

“There is just something about him that made me uneasy but she would not stop from him, so I just allowed him to come around so that she would be at home,” Barnes said.

I have deliberately left out the name of the boyfriend in respect of his rights in case he has no link to the young lady’s disappearance.

But the mother is convinced that her daughter will never be found and the boyfriend is to blame.

I felt compelled to write on this issue because, without pointing fingers, I think that many agree that this grieving mother should get some help. That her daughter is old enough to make her own decisions is not an issue with Barnes.

“Like all families, we had our bad times because I had to discipline her from time to time but we had a good relationship,” she said. “Even after she dropped out of school and was said to be sleeping in people's garages, we always stayed in touch. I called her from time to time and begged her to come home, and she did.”



The distraught mother said that Bastian did come home, and after a while her boyfriend started coming around and even stayed at the house from time to time.

“I was not too pleased with him coming around but I was happy that she (Bastian) was at home so I tolerated him,” she said.

After Bastian left her mom’s home last year, there were at least two reports that the young lady was seen in Potters.

“I heard that she was in Potters and I went there a couple of times, but no one seem to know that she lived in the place she was seen,” Barnes said.

The interesting thing is that since July last year, there have not been any reports of anyone seeing Bastian.

The police, though, are of the view that the young lady is alive and well.

Police spokesperson William Holder maintained that the police have done their job, and that this is now a matter of respecting the person’s privacy, in this case Bastian.

“She is not a minor,” Holder said. “Once the police receive a missing person’s report and they are satisfied that that’s not the case, then we are not obligated to tell anyone of the person’s whereabouts.”

Barnes, though, does not understand why the police cannot show some sympathy for the pain she is feeling.

“I’m begging them to just let me see her," she said. “I’m not asking that she come back home. If she don’t want to live with me, it’s okay, but I don’t understand how nobody can say she is here or there and I can just see her."

So, since the police will not help, perhaps people who are moved with compassion will come to this mother’s aid.

The Parham mother said she does not even know if her daughter mothered a child, and that is also a cause of concern.

According to Barnes, the 29-year-old boyfriend is off island, a report corroborated by the young man’s father.

It was reported that he left for Canada one month after the mother last saw her daughter.

Not even her daughter's closest friends, according to Barnes, have heard from or seen Bastian for more than a year.

Meanwhile, the mother continues to plead with the police and the public to help her to have some closure to this extremely disturbing situation.

Barnes questioned the reasons behind the treatment she has received from the police, and said it’s a case of status.



“Not because I’m poor, I love my children like anyone else,” said the mother of six. “Her clothes are still at home.

“Her glasses, which a friend helped to buy for about $2,000, is still there, and I just don’t understand why she would not even call or come home to pick up her stuff.”

Now seriously, which one of you, in Barnes’ position, would sit on your hands and accept what the police said?

Is it asking too much for the police to provide even a recent picture of the young lady so her mom can have some closure to this extremely sensitive condition?

This is the last know, picture of Bastian, who someone said was seen in Bolans last year.

Anyone with any information should please contact Denise Barnes at 728-4516 or 785-3802

Please help.

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Follow up please

#32 Reason » 2012-10-01 10:14

Can you provide a follow up to this story? The number of young people that go missing on the island is alarming! For an island that is only 14 by 17 miles why isn't there more concern for what is going on?
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VERY DISSAPOINTED!

#31 *** » 2012-06-17 11:03

The police needs to investigate this. My heart goes out to that mother, not knowing where to turn and having no closure for almost one year.
As Antiguans, is there anything we can do to help? Do we need to plan a picket in front of the police station? This is a very serious situation when the police turn their backs on us.
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ANTIGUA PEOPLE LOVE NEWS

#30 MISSING? » 2012-06-11 07:01

THE GUY SHE WAS WITH WAS MY BROTHER WHO IS NOT A DEPORTEE!!! THATS JUST FOR THE RECORD! SHE WAS WITH HIM YES, BUT WHEN SHE GO MISSING HE WAS ALREADY GONE PEOPLE NEED TO GET THERE STORY RIGHT WHEN THERE TRYING TO PULL DOWN PEOPLE...IF YOU KNOW THIS FAMILY YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY THE POLICE ARE BEHAVING LIKE THIS BUT TO BE HONEST MY BROTHER DOES NOT KNOW MUCH ABOUT THESE PEOPLE AND THEY ARE HERE TRYING ANYTHING IN THERE POWER TO SAY ALL THIS MADNESS I GUESS THIS IS THE ANTIGUA WAY...
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story

#29 amazing » 2012-06-09 19:15

For the first time I see how a story can be one sided. Magic you should have done your homework. Thats all I am saying
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Please

#28 nameless » 2012-06-07 21:40

This is a tough one. On one hand I can understand the need to privacy, as a mother I am torn.
There has to be a common ground here, is there any way the mother can inquire at the hospital if her child is in fact a mother?
Did the father of this young man at least took the time out to reasure this mother her child is well?
I am appealing to Alisha Bastian, please please if you read this article contact Magic by phone not by email since anyone can send a text or an email and let him meet with you at a place of your choice.
That way he can relate what he sees to your mother if you choose not to want to be contact with her. PLEASE I AM BEGGING.....as a mother and a daughter.
Reach out to your mother!
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To answer the question,Where is Alisha Bastian

#27 Across the waters. » 2012-05-24 11:17

Not a prophet,but i think she is resting awaiting the masters call.Why would anyone think this woman is still alive? WHAT,,, you all afraid to call the police Idiots? They messed up,thats all.
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Elderstate's Woman

#26 Jane » 2012-05-20 13:20

I don't think we have the full story. This is Antigua 108 square mills somebody somewhere must know what is really happening here. This is the type of story that politicians from both sides normally gravitate to. Why the hands off approach this time? 15 months have alrready passed. I think closure of this matter is long overdue. We have a lot of talk shows airing every day can someone call or text and end this?
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RE: Where is Alisha Bastian

#25 SlyThatGuy » 2012-05-19 10:40

Family members and friends need to do whatever they can to console this grieving mom because the police did enough: They located the daughter then told the mother that her daughter is "alive and well," which in itself should be comforting, but the mother chose not to believe them. There's no way they would have told her that if they weren't certain.And because the daughter is an adult and obviously doesn't want anything to do with her mother after their unpleasant conversation,the police would be violating her rights if they told her mom where she was.
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Living in Canada

#24 sitco » 2012-05-19 07:26

The girl is probably living in Canada. She cannot let anyone know because of the risk of deportation.
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#23 SlyThatGuy » 2012-05-19 00:34

If I were worried about my 19-year-old daughter who is pregnant and missing after we argued and the police brought me words that she was "alive and well,"it would be so comforting to me that I'd just thank them.There's no way I was going to think that they'd say something like that if they weren't certain.After thanking the police for doing a good job,I would then try to reach out to my daughter through the media(The newspaper,the radio station,and the television,etc.)to call me or come back home.The police cannot tell the mother where her adult daughter is if the daughter doesn't want her mother to know.
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The Girl was murdered by the deportee

#22 Vicnes » 2012-05-18 23:54

This girl was xxxxed by the deportee and that was her xxxy that was xxxd in the xxxs. This story need to be aired by CNN and published in the New York Times and all of the major British and Canadian newspapers. This is easiest way to get the attention of the morons in the UPP and forced them to bring in real investigators from the FBI and/or Scotland Yard and put this SOB in jail. Vere Browne and the Keystone Kops cannot even find their way out a wet paper bag. They are clueless.
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@BEYOND LIMITS

#21 ANTIGUAN WOMAN » 2012-05-18 21:48

You could not have said it better,something here isnt quite right, either the Mother is not telling all,and more occured betwen them or something went terribly wrong with the young woman,Cant see how persons are thinking logically and would think that this woman walked out of her mothers house offering to return with food,the Bfriend returned with the food and she just happen to decide i dont want to see her family anymore,the fact that she was an adult would mean she could safely return home for her belongings,it does not appear that she is one who could go out and buy a new wardrope,her passport is at home,meaning she have not left with the young man,Something is very wrong with this picture,and it does not appear to me to be as simple as someone who is upset with her mother.Seem like someone is protecting someone,thats the reason i ask who is this boyfriend and why is he been kept a secret.
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RE: Where is Alisha Bastian

#20 SPEED BUMP » 2012-05-18 21:19

Are cops really doing their job?
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/17/michael-sanchez-jr-san-jose_n_1525950.html?ref=san-francisco&icid=maing-grid7|netscape|dl15|sec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D162210
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Advice for the mom and family

#19 Wadadli Blogger » 2012-05-18 19:21

I think the family should hit up social media ... start a facebook page or pages. Embar** her into atleast reaching out to her family if you have to. Check the hospital and clinics for records since she was pregnant. Keep calling in radio stations. Get ABS tv / Goodmorning Antigua to put up a picture of her. Make some lost / wanted posters and stick them up all over. Offer a reward for any credible information. Get your local ALP/UPP politicians to help fund the posters and reward if you are not financially able. I also think you can get financial help from some local business people if neccessary. All or some of those procedures might help ya'll out. Good luck!!!

And if the police knows she is alive and just does not want to see her family they should atleast take a new picture of her and give it to the mom or even just confirm she is alive so she can sleep at night ... and eventually rest in peace nowing her daughter WAS NOT KILLED!!! Is she hiding out with some police man or something?
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#18 ANTIGUAN WOMAN » 2012-05-18 19:14

Also if she really is alive and not drugged out,then she must be a cold& cruel person,what kind of a human would do that to their mother,that been the case the Mother is better off without her.
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RE: Where is Alisha Bastian

#17 ANTIGUAN WOMAN » 2012-05-18 18:13

I agree with Tenman,dont mean to sound like the voice of gloom and doom,but my advice for this lady would be to pray for strenght.The statement by the police makes absolutely no sense,respect privacy in what way? Is this the young ladies request that no contact be made with her mother,if so why? According to her Mother they had a normal Mother/child relation,her personal belongings are still at home.I may be wrong,since i,m not a Psychic,but i think the Police should be approaching this as a possible homicide,this is the most unusual case i have heard of,Maybe magic needs to tell us the name of the Boyfriend who just happened to migrate just after her dissaperance,if you ask me thats pretty strange,he was deported from the US according to another article,and immigrated to canada right after she fell off the map.Has the body they found last yr,not far from her area been identified as yet?This sounds like a joke,cant believe this is Antigua in 2012.
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Rights, we don't need no stinking, lousy rights....

#16 marco polo » 2012-05-18 18:02

The devil with her rights as an adult. If mom wants to know where she is, then Mom has an absolute unfettered right to know where she is? The police should simply capitulate - notwithstanding the wishes of an adult - and tell mom exactly where she is.... really??? The police are the worst possible experts in the world when it comes to resolving mother-daughter conflicts. When mine start to fight, I retire to a separate room.....
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RE: Where is Alisha Bastian

#15 SPEED BUMP » 2012-05-18 16:40

Some or you people got to be crazy! Talking about she is grown, right to privacy and parents should suffer consequence, etc... This is BS you all talking!
This girl was living at home with her mother an just vanished. Yes, she is grown but Momma was taking care of her, making sure she have food, clothes and shelter. Obviously Momma really cared about her and did not care for her dating a 29 year old man whom she sees no good in. She eventually gave in, but its all fall back to the fact that she cared very much about her daughter and did not want her to run off. We not see that the man brain washed the girl against her Mom's wish. THIS IS A CASE OF MISSING PERSON AND THE COPS NEED TO GIVE MORE ASSURANCE TO THE MOTHER. Is the air lines record showing ticket purchase to Canada? If so, did the police showed it to mom?
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Devil's advocate

#14 Lionman » 2012-05-18 16:14

Unfortunately the young generation feel they know more than adults and as usual most teenagers will rebel when a parent opposes their boyfriend or girlfriend. The boyfriend being 11 years older is already an issue what in the world this hardback man need with a young lady only to manipulate her mind.

I cannot bash the police because they are stuck between a rock and hard place. It could be good if the police would unexpectedly leave a number for the mother to call but then again they do not know the actual reason why she decided to leave and there is always two sides to a story and this young girl is not a minor or adolescent. She is an adult which gives her the right to leave the home when she pleases. It may sound harsh but mommy you tried and you still have other youths to tend after and ensure they do not go down the same path. It is tough to let things be but in this situation you really do not have a choice. The police to a certain degree has performed their job and they cannot violate her right to privacy even thought violating citizens rights is what they do best lol.

Mommy I am sorry for your ordeal may Jah be with you and your remaing youths.
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JahMa pronounce 'JAMMER' not DRAMA

#13 JahMa » 2012-05-18 13:40

Magic this don't need no rocket scientist, super sleuth private investigator, the police, JahMa, or any drama for the mother Denise Barnes of the presumed missing young lady Alisha Bastian to find out her whereabouts. Very simply as it was stated the presumed missing young lady was pregnant well over a year ago which means she must have given birth by now, which means record of the birth is public health information at the hospital or at the Court house Birth certificate office...Btw do the missing young lady have a Father! Okay nuff respect, no JahMa...
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Where is Alisha

#12 Dona » 2012-05-18 13:26

Alisha, If you are able to read Caribarena, Please contact your mother.
Let her know that you are o.k. Remember if you are now a mother. Put yourself in the position that she is now in. How would you feel. Think about it. A mother will always be a mother no matter what.
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@R.Baptiste

#11 Lordhelpus » 2012-05-18 12:56

Did you carefully read the story? This mother has been looking for her daughter for a year. No one has seen her almost a year. This woman is not sitting on her **. She's been out looking for her child. The police says she is alive and well. If they have proof that she is, why not tell mother that we have spoken to her and she does not want contact with her. No they have not done that because they have not made contact with her. They dont see this as a missing person case circumstances behind the case. They see it as a young girl rebelling. Clearly this mother loves her child and just want to know she's ok. The problem with people like you is that if it doesn't affect you personally it doesn't
matter. Instead of sitting there saying Magic is bias you should like the rest of us encouraging law enforcement to help this lady find her child. Whether
she is 20 or 80 she is a missing person. Have some compassion. Are you a parent? If you are put yourself in this woman's shoes
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#10 Observer » 2012-05-18 12:54

The least the police could have done was confirm to the parent that the child is OK but has asked not to be contacted... OR they could have even played the role of mediator just so the mother could have some peace of mind... Now even with the man out of country no one still seems to know here this child is?? this whole thing sounds fishy to me!!
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Where is Alisha Bastian?

#9 Proud ANU Queen » 2012-05-18 11:52

I empathize with Ms. Barnes. In other countries, when people go missing for an extended period of time, law enforcement usually steps in at the request of the family to start a search. Ms. Barnes, maybe you should contact a private investigator to assist you.

I'm a Mother, too, and I can't even imagine the pain Ms. Barnes is feeling. Alisha, if you are "alive and well" and read Caribarena, please contact your Mom to let her know that you're ok. Send her a letter, a text, an email; anything to assure her that you"re ok, would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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more than a year

#8 Concerned » 2012-05-18 10:03

i am sorry to have to say but if your daughter was pregnant and gave birth at the hospital then she is alive, but pregnant and no hospital records and the boyfriend from what i read did not want her to have the baby. the police needs to really investigate this dude and he is American. my feeling tells me that he xxxed her and xxxed her somewhere. for the kind of relationship that you and your daughter had i don't see why she would not contact you for a whole year or no one see her anywhere. you have her passport. so sit down and ask God to lead you to where this man xxxed your daughter .
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done their job

#7 Brooklyn » 2012-05-18 09:27

Is this the same Holder who should be. Lay man in the church, if so Mr Holder you might have done your job as a police but not as a man of God . I have been reading and followering police reports and the arrogance in you comments left little or no room for humility , remember you testified of Gods calling on you life . This is a mother weeping for a missing child .
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this is not real

#6 beyond limits » 2012-05-18 08:54

this man is in canada the girl passport is home ............somethin g is not right here i hate to go down this road but is this guy related to this police holder...........she had no contact with friends or family .........no way this boy father must know something..........s omebody please help this lady ..........whereis asot and joann in times like this
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More to the story

#5 H.N.I.C. » 2012-05-18 08:45

People of Antigua. do we really believe that the police would sweep a missing persons report under the rug? If they are willing to go on record and say they are satisfied that the person is ok they it must be that they have made contact with the person and the person being a legal adult has the right to ask the police to not disclose her location. My father told me to get out of his house when i was 18yrs old. I am now 30 and have not spoken to him since that afternoon. I would not want him to know where i live. Parents to must know that there are consequences to how the treat their kids.
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RE: Where is Alisha Bastian

#4 R. Baptiste » 2012-05-18 08:41

Magic;
I can understand you may be sympathetic to Ms. Barnes, but that does not give you the right to be bias in your reporting. I can also understand that mother is upset and distraught, but this is not a child we are talking about. If the Young lady does not wish to communicate with her mother, there is very little that the police can do. The young lady has her right to privacy; suggesting that the police provide a recent picture could violate that basic right. In this article, you hinted as to what amounts to incompetence on the part of the police, and that is not so.
My questions to you are: What should the police do? Should they drag the young lady to her mother’s home? Why not as for donations for a reward? What are your suggestions?
This is not personal; I am a fan of yours who want to see unbiased reporting.
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Hmmmmm - over a year no contact

#3 tenman » 2012-05-18 08:16

Hmmmmm your statement about Antigua being a small place, adds credence to the mothers concern. Commonsense tells me that the mother is right to be concerned. All indications are that this will end with confirmation of the mother's fears.
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#2 Hmmmmm » 2012-05-18 06:28

I understand the mothers plight. However, if I was her and I am perceive I am not getting the e required information from the police. I would find myself in Bolans with other family memeber or friends armed with a few pictures of the girls and walk around until I found her or information about where she was. I wouldnt sit and wait for a year on not knowing and not getting any information. Antigua is a small place and if she is still alive then someone must have seen her.
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RE: Where is Alisha Bastian

#1 Morris » 2012-05-18 06:08

Police spokesperson William Holder maintained that the police have done their job, and that this is now a matter of respecting the person’s privacy, in this case Bastian.

“She is not a minor,” Holder said. “Once the police receive a missing person’s report and they are satisfied that that’s not the case, then we are not obligated to tell anyone of the person’s whereabouts.”

Done their job? Mr. Holder, the job is not complete until every stone is overturned, every nook and cranny is searched, an investigation conducted if warranted, and proper communication is conducted with the mother. Privacy? Keeping her whereabouts a secret? Are you for real? Is there a no contact order issued by the court between this mother and her daughter? Instead of giving the mother such BS response, why not just acknowledge that more needs to be done? And you guys wonder why the public has such a low level of confidence in the Police.
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